5 Ways To Stay Positive During Pregnancy

Pregnancy is very often seen as a time of delight, of celebrations, of looking forward and revelling in the fact that you are about to bring a little life in to this world. Family and friends are thrilled, and all the talk around you is of good things to come.

But…..what if you just aren’t feeling quite so upbeat? What if, despite the fact that this was either what you wanted, or a welcome surprise, you just feel, well, out of sorts? Maybe a bit down? A feeling of flatness? Or of worry? Or guilt?

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I have been there. Despite being over the moon about being pregnant, I have experienced the kind of moods that did not seem to fit with the very exciting thing that was happening inside my body.

The kind of moods that make it difficult to give my children the patience that they deserve.

The kind of moods that make me want to hide away at home when I am usually such a social creature.

The kind of moods that mean my husband does not know exactly who this wife is that he comes home to every night.

This is my fifth pregnany, and the third to make it to twenty-two weeks, and I recognise the symptoms well.

Tiredness and hormones can combine to play games with your mind, leaving you low in mood and with much less of a desire to do anything. Guilt can kick in for loads of reasons – not being able to play with your older children in the same way, feeling like you shouldn’t be feeling like this when you’ve got so much to be happy about, the list goes on. And all of these things can hit at any time, some people feel like this right at the start, and some suddenly feel low in their final weeks.

Sometimes those hormones can make your moods swing around like crazy, from highs to lows with a good few tears in between. It can be a complete rollercoaster and it can be overwhelming for all concerned.

However, the good news is that there are some things you can do to bring back some positivity during your pregnancy, and to keep those positive vibes flowing throughout the remaining months. Over the course of all my pregnancies, I have picked up a few hints and tips to try to remember if you find yourself struggling with a low or fluctuating mood.

Firstly, it is important to try to figure out whether what you are feeling is a spell of feeling down/anxious/rubbish or something that could be classed as pre-natal depression. Depression usually lasts weeks or months, and if you experience this it is important that you see someone to get some support. This website is recommended for further details if you suspect you may be feeling this way.

For me, it was (and still is) spells of horrendously low mood that have been scattered throughout each pregnancy. While it did lift after a week or two each time, I found the following things to be a MASSIVE massive help each time:

  1. Be Kind To Yourself.

Seriously. Your body is going through HUGE changes, hormones are having a party, life is changing and you deserve to treat yourself nicely. Make time for the little, achievable things that you love and don’t feel guilty for it…..cake, magazines, books, coffee with friends, TV, time alone, whatever. Just make sure you do something that makes you happy, often.

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2. Communicate.

Talk to someone. I don’t mind who. Your partner, family, friends, your midwife, your online           support network. This is helpful for two reasons; you feel better for chatting (and you will often get some good chat and advice back in return), and also it can help you and others keep an eye on whether you are still in a ‘low mood’ little phase or whether it is potentially becoming more serious. As before, if this is the case please speak to your midwife or GP.

3. Do Something.

Anything. As tempting as it is to stay under the covers, make it a thing to achieve something every day. You will feel so, so much better about yourself if you have managed to take the children somewhere, or go for a small walk, or craft, or see people, or whatever real life is asking you to do and you feel like is too much like hard work. Just one thing a day, you can do that! After that, see No 1 above.

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4. Start a Gratitude Diary.

I was sooooooo sceptical about this when it was suggested to me, and I have to admit I don’t do this routinely but whenever I feel the mood slipping I restart and it helps no end, honestly. At the end of each day, I write down three things I feel grateful for in my life. After that, I don’t give it much more thought but honestly, it must be some kind of magic because those positive vibes come creeping in again. Trust me.

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5. Move.

Because of the magic of endorphins, this will make you feel SO MUCH BETTER. And doubly magic if you move outdoors, as the outdoors weaves a special web that tends to improve your mood too. So, depending on your physical limitations, find a way that you can fit some movement in your day, and do this every day, even just a little bit. Walking is excellent, as is aqua natal if you’ve got any sessions near you. Pregnancy yoga is beyond good for you (although when I went the whole group had to forgive me for the extra help I needed – flexibility is NOT my middle name) and if you want to stay indoors, try a pregnancy exercise DVD. You will NOT regret it.

 

I hope this helps. I am twenty-two weeks pregnant right now and have reintroduced most of these over the last few days, and I plan to start the gratitude diary tonight. Feel free to share your tips for keeping your mood up during pregnancy – the more we talk about this, the more it helps.

PTH x

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21 Comments

  1. May 26, 2016 / 6:08 am

    I completely agree that it’s important to talk about it – as you know my pregnancy moods haven’t always been up there in sunshine. They have now levelled out but I am noticing patches, like you describe, of low mood (almost pre-menstrual sort of waves which incidentally have only happened badly each month since having my first child). I have bookmarked this post. Thank you for sharing on #FamilyFun some really important and useful tips for keeping positive in what, for most people, is a happy time (which makes the lows feel so much more complicated!). Xx

    • June 5, 2016 / 8:17 pm

      Aww thank you Lucy! Complicated describes it accurately I think. I’m so glad you are feeling better now, it is quite astonishing the effect that pregnancy can have. I shall be following my own advice as much as possible!! xx

  2. May 26, 2016 / 8:38 am

    What a brilliant t post!!! Really so positive and such brilliant tips too. It is so important to look after yourself and I am a big believer in gratitude diaries I base my weekly roundup on this! Loved this and I hope you are following your ecpxcellent advice and feeling better 🌸 TY for linking up to #FamilyFun 🎉

    • June 5, 2016 / 8:13 pm

      Thank you so much Catie, feeling slightly better and the sunshine we’re having is helping no end. Its good to know I’m not alone in the gratitude diary too xx

  3. May 26, 2016 / 12:17 pm

    Great post! Having just had a baby I remember the highs and lows of pregnancy very well. Your tips are spot on. X #familyfun

    • June 5, 2016 / 8:11 pm

      Thank you for your comment! Highs and lows are an accurate way to describe it x

  4. May 27, 2016 / 10:15 am

    I really love this post as I totally understand what you mean about low moods. I was so happy to be pregnant and excited to be a mum but I definitely went through spells where I felt quite low, and just not myself. I became much less sociable and found doing anything a big effort. I walked a lot and did my pregnancy yoga DVD often which I found helped and as you say talking really made me feel better. Once I got closer to a pregnant friend I seemed to fare better, too. It seemed to wear off by the end of the pregnancy – almost as if because I was physically struggling emotionally I fared better?! Anyway, I love this and will definitely be employing these tips if I’m lucky enough to have another pregnancy. #FamilyFun

    • June 5, 2016 / 8:09 pm

      Thank you so much for your comment, I’m so sorry you struggled with this too although it is reassuring to know others have felt the same way as me. Your description sounds very much like me right now, so I’m feeling positive things will lift at some point, as they have done in other pregnancies. Good luck if you do go through it again! xx

  5. May 27, 2016 / 5:59 pm

    I could have done with this post when I was pregnant – it was such a miserable time for me despite being happy about the baby. Lovely post! x

    • June 5, 2016 / 8:05 pm

      Oh Ruth I’m so sorry to hear you were so miserable, and I totally know where you are coming from when you can feel like that despite being delighted about the pregnancy. Sending hugs xx

  6. May 27, 2016 / 6:46 pm

    Low moods are definitely tough and hormones really are a crazy bunch while pregnant. These are excellent tips. I’ve recently started finding the happy bits in each week so similar to the gratitude diary. It really helps. Getting out walking is my must. Outside rocks! #triballove #familyfun

    • June 5, 2016 / 8:03 pm

      Oh outside is magic!! Even when I don’t feel like going out I ALWAYS feel better, it improves everything for me and my days. Thank you so much for your comment x

  7. May 27, 2016 / 9:29 pm

    I think it’s great that you’ve risen awareness of what some people go through in their pregnancy. I’d go so far as saying that these tips could well be used even if you aren’t pregnant. #familyfun

    • June 5, 2016 / 7:53 pm

      Thank you, I agree a lot of these make sense for everyday and I will definitely try to continue with them when my baby is born. Thank you so much for your comment x

  8. May 28, 2016 / 7:35 am

    Thank you for sharing a post on this – so important. I blog about PND and through that journey have met many women who experienced depression during pregnancy and it’s rarely talked about. And even without AND, the mood changes during pregnancy can be difficult to manage. Thanks for sharing your tips X #familyfun

    • June 5, 2016 / 7:51 pm

      Aww thank you for your comment, it is such a huge and important topic and it can only be a positive thing for us to keep talking about it. Thank you so much for your comment and I’ll be checking out your blog xx

  9. May 28, 2016 / 7:38 am

    These are great suggestions especially communicating with others how you are feeling. I found that other mums and pregnant women were very supportive having been there themselves, although also important for OH to know how you feel too so they can be supportive. I would add 1 more to your list though sleep. It is so important to get enough sleep as it helps you deal with stress and emotions and is a great mood lifter.

    • June 5, 2016 / 7:50 pm

      Yes sleep!! That is such a good point – a lack of sleep can have such a detrimental effect on mood, and pregnancy can make sleep more elusive at times. Thank you for your comment! xx

  10. June 15, 2016 / 10:45 am

    A great post. I recognise those emotions. Everyone expects you to be so happy when you’re pregnant but I remember being scared and low at times. I used to swim and talk to my husband and meditate #ABrandNewDay

  11. June 15, 2016 / 12:55 pm

    Ahh, I’ve read this before but thought I’d add a comment! These tips are worthy for non pregnant people too, I’m sat drinking a cup of tea right now doing nothing but reading blogs. Baby asleep! Yay! Thanks for linking to #abrandnewday

  12. June 17, 2016 / 8:47 am

    This is wonderful – I had those moments in my pregnancy too, where I just got in a bit of a spiral of feeling rubbish, tired and alone. It is so true to get out there and do one thing a day as it makes the world of difference. I have also started doing a gratitute diary recently – I do it as a little list in my head with my morning coffee – but have really noticed that it can transform your day xx #abrandnewday #triballove

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